Kindness

Good, you should. And be nice.

Self-talk can be very healthy, either out loud or in your mind. It is helpful to point out to yourself all your good points. Build yourself up. This is essential to good self-esteem.

Now the hard part. Like all of us, you have your problems too; those areas in your life that need improvement.

With others as well as yourself, it is essential to differentiate between what you do and who you are.

You may not always like what you do, but you can always like who you are.

Self-talk would say “I am a valuable, capable human being created by God. I can (list your best traits). I will continue doing better and better every day because I can. I am worth the effort”

Counsel from others is also very important but is probably not available at a moment’s notice. This is why practicing self-talk is so essential. You are always there for you.

So practice being your own best counselor and best friend 🙂

How many encounters in your life have you avoided because you were afraid he or she might laugh at you, smirk at you, say something condescending, give you an odd look, etc?

In a perfect world, we would all have mental or emotional connections with everyone we came in contact with. Obviously, that will never happen. So is the solution to avoid encounters? Yes, for some that is their answer. Possibly they are too wounded from previous conflicts to take a risk.

But wounds can heal. Try not to let the past control your future actions. Sometimes the best healer is success. Continue interacting. Focus on the other person’s interests and needs and build trust. Find commonality. Show interest.

Simply put, caring about others will give you a higher likelihood of acceptance.

In those situations were rejection does happen, self talk will do wonders. I will cover that in another post.