Here is a surefire way to never win. In fact, it could make you a lifetime loser. It is to look at other people and compare yourself to them.
You’re one-of-a-kind. No one else is like you. God made you different than everyone else on purpose. No two people are exactly alike. Take that individuality and improve on it. Be the best you.
Focus inward. Be a better you than you were yesterday. Decide what you can do better and do it. Sure, you may see traits in others that you would like to model, so do it but make them your own.
And when you achieve a personal goal, reward yourself, because you’re a winner, you deserve it!